Yes, fat has a connatation that is ugly and cruel. Fat is a fact of life for most of us. Whether it is 10 pounds or 100 most of us are fat and/or overweight by most standards.

It is like saying someone is ugly. I have seen plenty of people that in my opinion were ugly, yet they have a wonderful life with someone that has found them beyond beautiful. On both counts, they can be rude.

Fat and ugly are words that can hurt to the quick. But with all things one has to be strong enough to know themselves that words can't hurt you.

I myself, am a fat woman, and needs lots of attention. I have yet to find it(attention) and while most wouldn't find my pictures and pose's as eroctic, there are those that do, and I think in this community it is far more acceptable. I think it is because we are more open to kinks, and the more open to acceptance.

While there are people who find beastily,scat and other such forms, ugly, we accept them as they are, so a fat woman is also acceptable.

There is a lot of reasons one is fat, not just from eating to much, some are, but there are other reasons too, medical is a huge problem, some from medication taken, some from the diease they may be suffering from, but as was pointed out, fat subs need to have fun and are as sexual as a model is. The same can be said for a fat Dom, he may not be able to use his equipment, but he can be a wonderful caring and enjoyable Master, and has learned how to deal with his/her body mass and be the best there is.

So before you poo poo the idea that a fat girl/guy is unacceptable, the whole package could have been someone that is meant to be yours.

I learned that my body was a useful and even sexy from the ST's and that while my pictures weren't of professional caliber, nor as sexy to even my eyes as some of the others, I was accepted and embraced so I could learn how to perform for my Master when the time comes. But never once was I called ugly, nor fat, there were ways that I was appreciated for my endurance and dedication in learning how to accept my liabilitys.

All (imho) the true Dom/me's are open and non judgemental of the larger than most subs out there.

Ok, so now I feel better, if any of this makes sense. I have wanted to reply on this topic since it was posted in the beginning, but felt a bit shy.

Thanks
T