1) Kneeling is a good way to get a sub into the proper frame of mind.
You might try having her kneel foward with her butt up in the air for easy access. Gaged with her hands bound behind her.

2) Waxing works well. She will be a little sore afterwards but pain is a good thing. Use a good lotion(no fragrence) on the area afterwards.

3) Yes, yes, and yes. Also anal sex is a nice thing.

4) A butterfly is a good way to do things when you are not there. Other than that, trust is a must.

5) Don't know about that one.

6) A good start.

Good luck and have fun.

Barton