Questions from a novice

[slavelucy]

Wow, that's a lot of questions!

*looks at them again to see which one's i could attempt to answer*

1. i think it depends on the sub. Personally i find just standing infront of him once i'm naked quite humiliating, which possibly sounds a bit odd, but in a vanilla relationship, you'd be all over each other by that point, rather than someone um...cooly regarding you or setting out stuff to use on you whilst you stand there. You should probably try a few positions tho and see what reactions you get.

2. Depilation cream could work (the stuff to which Kelli refers), you apply it, leave it for a bit and then scrap it off with a piece of plastic which is shaped like a razor but is not a razor. Make sure you get the one that is for sensitive areas though. You could also try shaving with a shaving cream/gel that contains a lot of aloe vera..or apply pure aloe afterwards.

3. See this thread. For what i personally get up to during it, see post 63 and 73 of this thread. This would be a completely personal judgement call, for both of you.

4. You can't 'know' she did what you asked, obviously. You can trust that she did it because you asked her to do it, and if she didn't, that she would tell you she didn't do it. The control you exert over her at times when you're not with her is all mental and based on the DS bond between you. Or you could ask her to take five minutes out to think about her submission, or perhaps write something on herself (see this thread) or wear a piece of significant jewellery, but in terms of actual submission, it remains mental.

5. Well, yeah, she'd likely be wet but not up for being touched much on certain parts. But, i have to agree with LD when i say the best way to tell is to ask her. He's right when he says even if she lies (which to be frank, she shouldn't do, well, not a lot anyway, DS isn't a cat and mouse game, it relies on honesty most of the time), but even if she lies, her body language will almost certainly give her away. i know mine would.

6. Hmmm. *thinks*. i think it's as good a way as any to exert your power over her, especially if you do it sporadically, because it may not always be something convienient. i agree however that you should be wary of over doing it, nudity is great, but not if it just becomes the norm. (just my personal opinion). There are many other ways to make her 'feel dominated', primarily, i'd say, getting her to do what YOU want when YOU feel like it, it doesn't always have to be prescribed or pre-mediated. But you'll adapt as you get used to it. i suspect doms could answer this better than i could.

Hope all this helps. Goodluck!

sl