My Introduction

[SIR!!]

HI IM SIR THE OTHER HALF OF THE VERY GORGEOUS DARK GIRL(THANKS EVERYONE FOR THE COMMENTS) :yourock:

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WELCOME TO:

miss duece, GarrickBailley, tmordan, & SIR!!

miss duece...I love it when you lurkers come to out into the light .....just watch your butt...some of the Dom's around here bite! .....lol...Just kidding!

GarrickBailley...So good that you found us and are learning and enjoying yourself here already.....hmmmm 20 years old huh?.....all us ladies just love to tease the ones that are young, pink and tender! .....sorry...just couldn't resist that one

tmordan...Wow....what you said is very much like my situation before I came here.....my bf is also very naturally dominant in a wonderful protective/possessive way.....and I wanted it to be more BDSM & D/s.....so after having a few little breakthroughs in our relationship towards that, I talked to him about this site and showed it to him....not too long ago I talked him into letting me register him.....he's been here for a little while now and our relationship has been changing in lots of good ways ever since...so good luck with moving your relationship more into BDSM....from experience coming to this site is a good start

SIR!!...It's great that you have decided to join us.....Darkgirl has been a joy to get to know and it will be fun to see you both on the Forums

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[tmordan]

what you said is very much like my situation before I came here.....my bf is also very naturally dominant in a wonderful protective/possessive way.....and I wanted it to be more BDSM & D/s.....so after having a few little breakthroughs in our relationship towards that, I talked to him about this site and showed it to him....not too long ago I talked him into letting me register him.....he's been here for a little while now and our relationship has been changing in lots of good ways ever since...so good luck with moving your relationship more into BDSM....from experience coming to this site is a good start

Thanks for the welcome, good to be here

Just to put things in a bit of context, I'm looking to make my bf more dominant, but I want to keep him as a bf and not as a Master. I'm not the most emotionally-stable type, and I don't think my self-esteem could handle being someone's slave! But I do want to scene with him every now and then, so I'm just trying to figure out where on the scale of things I want us to end up, and then work on taking us there.

Anyways, like I said, thanks for the welcome... I'll try not to turn into a lurker, but I can't make any promises I'm afraid - being inexperienced I don't have that much to say. See yous all around!

[Aeneas]

Welcome again to all our newest members!

Tmordan brought up a good point about wanting his bf to be a bit more into BDSM without becoming his Master. I am sure there are a lot of new subs out there wondering, "what on earth am I getting myself into?" RELAX! It is up to YOU and your partner how far and how fast you want to go. Take it at a level and a degree you feel safe and comfortable with. Like any new thing, there will come a time when you will want to test your limits ( or have someone else test them with you ). That is normal and part of the fun.

Most of us have some sort of "safe-word" system when playing. Just to give you an idea, I use a "streetlight" system. When I am whipping or tormenting a sub, she might be yelling "STOP" and it could be part of the enthusiasm for the moment, not to be taken at face value. If she says "yellow" I understand it is getting too intense, but she wants to continue at a slower pace. If she says "Red", that means STOP!!! I get her out of any bindings, we catch our breaths and talk about where we were, where we wanted to go, and how to de get back on track. Suppose she is gagged? I use a small red rubber ball that she holds in her fist. Usually she is glad to have something to clench. If she wants to stop, she drops the ball. No matter what I am doing, I can't miss a bouncing red ball.

Just remember to take it a step at a time. There is a lot of information here. Real people who had tried real things. We all learn from each other. So come on in, the water's fine!