Welcome to the forum, NightNurse. Congratulations on joining us.
You mentioned being in a "vanilla marriage". I've been a member of several forums for a number of years now, and many people I have chatted with have experienced similar frustrations to yours. You will most certainly meet members who share your interests, as well as those of us who have experienced the frustrations of being in "Vanilla" relationships. Hopefully through our forum, you can chat with people who have similar interests to yours.

I hope you enjoy the forum.

Mitch