OK, Mr. Dean, i will show you my tits, but only if you promise not to stare.

Regarding the "he said/she said" conundrum.

i use lots of dialogue, in my non erotic writing. When you only have two characters, many times you can avoid the tags entirely. Just sprinkle them in, occasionally to make sure the reader can keep track of the order of the dialogue. To further clarify, you can add an "address tag" within the quote.

"Kevin, please give me the combination."

When action is involved with the quote a tag can often be deleted,

"Yep," he kissed her cheek, "You're sweaty."

just my tuppence