interesting thread to initiate my introduction to this forum.

i had the occasion to speak candidly with two dominants (male and female) and both said that they do not view the D/s lifestyle as mostly sexual. certainly there is a sexual element to it but it is not often the major focus.

to a point i agree with this. i am submissive but most people would not know it in my outside life .. yet both had me pegged within about 10 minutes of conversation.

the reason why i say this is that it wasn't through a conversation about D/s that they determined this but by my general demeanor. As they said, it takes one to know one. i didn't seek out this lifestyle ... it found me. it is my reactions that keep me searching for that one person that will lead me to new heights and understanding of this thing that makes me tick.