I remember reading a story years ago told from the perspective of a woman who had been talking to her bf about her kidnapping/rape fantasies. They more or less agree to do it, and she of course supposes he will kidnap her. So when a car comes running on the lonely road, and she is grabbed by a hooded man, hogtied and tossed into the back seat of the car she doesn't fight it more than for show, cause why would she? Blindfolded and gagged, tugging at the knots, feeling how helplessly she is bound and figuring what will happen...Then when the car stops at a cabin deep in the forest and the driver turns around and talks to her, she freezes - it's not his voice, it's a complete stranger. Oh my God...she redoubles her efforts in fury but no good (I'm sorry I can't provide a link cause it was a very hot story!)

Of course, in the end after she's been wrung inside out, half choked in fear, flogged and abused - and still turned on - it turns out this guy had ben hired by her hubby to make it feel real. That story kind of highlights the problem: how far do you go without making it real rape - and if it is the experience, the consuming feeling of real rape you want - I can understand that on some level though I wouldn't want to be subjected to full real rape myself - how do you deal with it afterwards?