Sex, Sex, Sex... It's All About the Sex

[slavelucy]

Oh, i completely agree, DS is 99% mental, indeed why would someone CARE if they did something to someone elses satisfaction unless they were in the right place mentally and emotionally. Having said that, whilst it's certainly not about 'sex, sex, sex' i think it IS about passion and fulfillment, both feelings and states of mind which can often blur with arrousal.

The only thing i'd disagree on is the following:

Some elements of DS can be sexual, yes. A dominant firmly ordering his submissive to give him a blowjob and her complying are certainly dominant and submissive acts, but they are not the only dominant and submissive acts. A submissive that is ordered to fetch her dominant a cup of coffee, to serve it to the dominant on her knees, and then to allow him to use her back as his coffee table is performing a deeper, more mental, and far more subtle form of submission

With the very greatest of respect, says who? You? Surely it depends on the submissive? Some subs really don't like giving head and hence to do so in a thoughtful, completely selfless way is as beautiful (or, to use your terms effecting her deeply, in a mental sense) as someone delicately and thoughtfully serving you a drink.

More goes on in the brain when one is made to fetch a hot beverage, not spill it while getting to one's knees, and maintaning the discipline required to hold still enough and the back straight enough not to slosh hot coffee on oneself than does when one is ordered to simply kneel and bob.

Pfffft! Whaaat? How do YOU know what goes in in the brain when sucking someone as compared to making a cup of coffee and serving it artistically? No offense TG, but why don't you learn to give the perfect BJ and then say that!

As i said, i agree with the theory of what you say, but i always believe one's on dodgy ground when it comes to presuming how people feel.

Btw, i'm sure there was another thread somewhere about sex and BDSM...i remember it turning into quite an interesting discussion. i'll have a look for it.

sl

Ah, found that other thread on the same subject, it's a good one, lots of different views etc (then again, it's one of Nikka's so it's bound to be):

The place of sex in a D/s-bdsm relationship