Quote Originally Posted by slavelucy


Pfffft! Whaaat? How do YOU know what goes in in the brain when sucking someone as compared to making a cup of coffee and serving it artistically? No offense TG, but why don't you learn to give the perfect BJ and then say that!
The reason he has an opinion about that is because he always asks how certain things make me feel - myself and others that we have had the experience to do real life activities with. He has had a fair basis for comparison. His opinion is based on what others have told him (I always figured all the questions were for a reason. lol)

I think what bothers me is that I know that DS is not all about sex but that is pretty much all you see and read about. A large portion of people allude to the idea that if you are not a brazen slut who likes to get fucked six ways from Sunday in every kinky way possible or doesn't get horny from being beaten then they are not a good submissive - that you can'y be a good submissive.

Hardly anyone talks about the other elements. They only talk about the activities that got them aroused. It sometimes makes me feel that there really isn't anything else to BDSM so what's the point of continuing and that, perhaps, I am not a submissive because of what the general population alludes as to what makes a good submissive. You don't read about how someone artistically a cup of coffee or what have you, only how they were beaten silly, got outrageously horny, and then being fucked into a coma. Little to nothing is said about all the rest. I've looked for the rest, but all I come up with is sex.