Sex, Sex, Sex... It's All About the Sex

[ProjectEuropa]

With the very greatest of respect, says who? You? Surely it depends on the submissive? Some subs really don't like giving head and hence to do so in a thoughtful, completely selfless way is as beautiful (or, to use your terms effecting her deeply, in a mental sense) as someone delicately and thoughtfully serving you a drink.

Rita in the local cafe serves me a drink, if not altogether delicately and thoughtfully. However she is in her own way being submissive because I'm at that moment paying the piper to play my tune. The difference as to when a partner serves me a drink (in one of her less feisty moods) as a submissive act, is the sexual connotation that I can take more and she would be willing to give more than a drink. However I tend to make the drinks because the tea I'm usually served up with is like dishwater and I know she really hasn't got the skill to improve because she hates making tea. I would imagine it would be similar for a BJ, if she really doesn't like it, would it be any good and would I then want it or would I want it just because I could make her do it?

I'm not sure where I'm going here. I think I'm trying to say that while all submissive acts aren't sexual, without the sexual undercurrent and potential sexual reward, they become meaningless to a sexual D/s relationship. Hmm Maybe not. Where I wouldn't enjoy a BJ knowing the sub really doesn't like giving one, it could well be arousing for some people knowing they can have a BJ because they can demand one regardless of the sub's fulfillment. My own feelings are I might as well pay Rita to make the tea because she is better at it.

OK I've confused myself. I'm stopping here before I'm accused of being off topic.