Quote Originally Posted by ProjectEuropa
I'm not sure where I'm going here. I think I'm trying to say that while all submissive acts aren't sexual, without the sexual undercurrent and potential sexual reward, they become meaningless to a sexual D/s relationship. Hmm Maybe not. Where I wouldn't enjoy a BJ knowing the sub really doesn't like giving one, it could well be arousing for some people knowing they can have a BJ because they can demand one regardless of the sub's fulfillment. My own feelings are I might as well pay Rita to make the tea because she is better at it.
But why does there have to be a sexual reward, or a sexual undercurrent? Why does it always have to be about the physical? There are plenty of mental aspects that require nothing of the physical whatsoever. I keep using the fetching coffee thing as an example, but I feel it's a good one. The submissive is doing something selfless for her partner that doesn't involve an orgasm from either party. I realize that a blowjob is a fairly selfless act, but it's still a physical, sexual one. It's not an act one would consider to be solely mentally gratifying.

I doubt that made any sense. It's hard to put into words, really.

The difference between Rita fetching you a cup of coffee and a submissive doing it is that Rita's getting paid to fetch your coffee. It's not particularly selfless or submissive, because it's her job. In the same situation, Rita giving you head might be a pretty selfless act on her part, but you paying her to do it would be illegal. LMAO