I think this is a really interesting thread. Thanks for starting it TG.

I wanted to just toss in my thoughts and experience. When I was first introduced to D/s, I did a google search to learn more.

Within the first few was gloria_brame and wizdomme. Both I thought were informative in different ways. They also don't strictly deal with sex. I think wizdomme did more.... one of the two led me to this site and I don't really peruse others so much so, so I can't really remember. Needless to say, I have stayed here because I realized you're all real people, living this very real lifestyle. And all on different levels, experience, etc. (I'm not making my point very well as I'm a bit exhausted... I apologize but please bare with me!)

None of these sites were ever strictly about sex. If one does a google search for BDSM, much more sex and pic sites are given. D/s though, different results. I don't know- I think this site in particular talks an awful lot about much more than sex. Yes, sexual context is generally for most a large undercurrent in a D/s relationship, but it's also about so much more than that and you've all made that clear through different threads. It's about establishing a connection and the sex follows. I think the same applies to a vanilla relationship too. Relationships are usually much more than sex, but sex is something two people in a relationship engage in... so it's always going to be part of it.

I think in any relationship one partakes in activities for someone to make them happy. Whether it be in a D/s relationship making sure your Dom/me's needs are always met, or in a common relationship cooking breakfast for your partner. They are just extremely different levels of servitude. But the goal is still the same- to please your partner. I would hope any serious relationship is more than just sex... it's just awful fun to talk about sex... especially the mischievous kind

I don't really have much real experience in D/s, but what I do know is it's much more than sex. And most of what I've learned as opposed to experienced has been through here and brief stints on a couple other websites. Sure, if you read the stories, they are loaded with sex. I'll be honest in saying I never read one story here until a few months ago(about 6 or so months after I discovered this site), and haven't read one since. I'll also say if I had read the stories in the beginning I would have closed my mind completely to D/s as they scared the hell out of me!! I think I'm trying to say I feel my knowledge thus far is fairly pure and unjaded, and most of what I have learned is about the mental connection of a D/s relationship.

I apologize as I've rambled and still don't know that I made any sense or a single contribution... "random thoughts of a tired mind" but I've been wanting to reply to this thread since it began.

~os