Quote Originally Posted by Jadetiger
I also need some examples of acceptable rewards. I have been told that mine may be too generous and could be seen as submissive.
Now that's a tricky one because a true submissive must surely be rewarded by further pain and/or humiliation, which can get so confusing that perhaps it's better not to go too far down that road. In my experience a reward is exactly the same as in the vanilla world. Something the person really wants but is unable or not allowed to have except when they deserve it.

For instance, while I was away this week lucy had some severe hassles (not Ds related) to get through. On my return I looked over what she had done and was so impressed and proud at how she had handled everything that I gave her what is currently (possibly always will be) her ultimate reward. She was allowed to wear her collar while she carried out today's tasks. Now on its own that may not seem much, but it is something very special to her/us and therefore I only allow it on extremely rare occasions when I am not physically with her.

I think this is how it should be with any submissive. Rewards should be few and far between, should be deserved rather than given for minor successes (for which only encouragement and praise should be given), and should be something that is special to that submissive.