Safewords, Slowwords, Signals, Codes

[Sir Lanceloth]

Everyone interested in real life BDSM learns about these.

What do you use?

i guess you mean what tools do I use? if thats the case then it is simple household items if any.

What have you used?

since im just starting my "adventures down this road" i havent used anything in the past

What have you heard or read about?

you mean stories about bdsm? i have read story of O, which i liked a lot. If you mean more serious stuff (like this forum), i have read anything from castle realm to latches, really anything i could find from google (with the 10000 poor porn sites to follow)

Words?
Nonverbal codes for situations when the person who is bottoming can't speak?

well in any play i would stop if my gf eithers says stop or the word we agreed upon which is chocolatemilk (the reason i would stop is simply that she has newer used her safeword yet, so to be certain it all goes well i would stop at stop)

Codes used in groups?

we dont play in groups

Any difficulties or misunderstandings you can tell us about?

the difficulty in my relationship is simply that my gf hasnt used her safeword yet, it makes me a bit worried whether she will have the courage to do so when neccesary.

What is SM
> Safety

not sure what you are asking here. The definition of SM is located somewhere on this wery site. But is it sm safety you are asking about?

In one of my favourite BDSM stories, Richard Alexander's Monica Series, the characters have a communal safeword for situations when they are gagged: They hum 'Happy Birthday'!

that sounds like a good idea. You might want to consider hand signals as well.