Good point FF. I think what the Doc was saying is that the excitement is in the role playing of being taken advantage of, but knows that the Dom wont. ??

The quote was in her conclusion of her explanation of BDSM. I didn't truly understand what she was saying, and I don't think she does either.

To be taken advantage of can mean so many things, however, she says the allure of BDSM is wanting to be taken advantage of but knowing that your not going to be.

Yet is that what subs really want. Where is the respect element of the Dom for his sub?

I for one wouldn't want to be taken advantage of, and I think BDSM is more than just roleplaying.