Quote Originally Posted by slo18
I have been talked about that way by guys and have to say its really painfull when u think a guy has asked u out cause he likes u and then u find out that its cause some of his freinds told him u were an easy lay. its cruel and painfull. :cursing:
I agree it's not fair. I read a review of a book called Slut . The author interviewed several people who had this reputation in school. In almost every case, they did not deserve the label, but it stuck because of (a) jealousy on the part of other girls, and (b) guys not wanting to admit they didn't even get to first base.

From the guy's point of view, it's a sign of weakness if he admits he didn't make it past first base. And guys are looking for an easy lay, because they're worried about performing properly when they lose their virginity.

It's not fair, but it's life. I'm not sure it's ever going to change.