Living A Sugarcoated Lifestyle?

[MMark]

I think that some of you are misinterpreting the quote. You're putting the period in the wrong place and dropping off the end of the sentence.

'The whole thrill of BDSM is letting someone take advantage of you knowing that they won't.'

While I'm willing to admit my own inexperience, I would venture that one of the guiding factors for a Sub is the perceived loss of control. The doc's statement does not end at merely with being taken advantage of, but that there is a risk of such, and the Sub trusts the Dom not to do so.

[Ruby]

I'm just as hung up on the first part of the sentence - "the whole thrill" as the middle and the end. :-)

The complete sentence doesn't begin to define what I get out of my BDMS relationship with my hubby or the thrill for me.

Does it for you? Any of you?

[gregor2001us]

There are too many ways to look at it to be able to explain it simply, in one sentence. For me, I need to have some side boards (limits) that allow me to feel comfortable placing myself under my Domme's control. Without them, I would not do it.

But once they have been agreed to (ie I am comfortable giving up my ability to direct and modify the outcome) the turn on is being at her mercy and being controled by her. I at that point have no choice and cannot control the outcome.

As TG said, you can look at it from a variety of perspectives, and may come to different conclusions about who is in control. I may not really know who is controling the situation. I only know what it feels like to me. But I don't really care what outsiders think they know. I know that I am turned on and enjoying the rush of being controled by someone else, and have (for my purposes) no control.

gregor