there was a group that is left out here. my wife and i have had dominant and submisive (respectfuly) traits but never knew it, hell i even thought i was submisive for a long time because of how polite and helpful i was it wasnt until my wife and i began to experiment i had to keep ordering her of how to dominate me then it clicked... i always had to be in control of everything i was involved in. even the things in life that cant b controled if somthing went wrong it was because i allowed it. so we are the life longbut unknown dom/ subs that learn the life together. very rewarding and safe in my humble opinion