In my years as a submissive I never used safe words....my Dom knew me inside and out...and I trusted him completely to guide me through whatever experience...I never felt the need for a safe word....I have incorporated that same approach into my life as a Dominant now as well....I take time to get to know my subs, and learn to listen very closely to their silent responses.....

I have always felt that playing with a safe word allows the submissive to have the underlying control of a scene....and in essence they arent really truly 100 percent submitting.....I feel I cheat someone if I allow them to have that power.....If my submissive always knows in the back of their head that they can stop a scene, then how much true submission is taking place? In order to allow them to give themselves wholly and fully they need to know they have absolutely no control in the situation.....there are many times my submissives would like me to stop....that they believe they cant take any more.....and they always thank me after for pushing them a little farther than they thought possible.....trust is the main ingredient....my submissives trust me to always take care of them....in scene and out.....they trust me to never push them farther than they can go.....and to never emotionally or physically damage them beyond repair....

I am in no way saying that people should not play with safe words.....I am quite aware that there are some that need to have those in place and I do not fault them one bit.....BDSM is a very large realm in where many people develop their own choices and concepts.....and it is not my place to say they are right or wrong....I have often heard of red yellow green to be the most popular of safe words.....they seem to be somewhat universal....