it seems many is a bit frightened at the concept of submitting to a inexperienced master. It is true that an uncaring inexperienced master have a huge potential to hurt those that submit to him/her. But the same is true for the experienced uncaring master. Sometimes it seems that all the subbies want is experienced doms, and simply overlooks the inexperienced out of prejudices (they are potentially uncaring). This is in my oppinion not a fair way to portrait it. Sure it is most likely more fun with an experienced dom, but not necesarily more safe. when words like these:
Originally posted by LadyAmanda
Actually, i think a new dom could do a lot of harm to someone if they just waded in and started flaying away. If a new dom didn't know their sub, and couldn't tell the difference between 'good' pain and bad pain ... I shudder to think of the damage they could do, physically and mentally.
are readily agreed upon, and taken for allmost a general truth then i cant help feel sorry for all those new doms who are trying their best to learn the neccesary skills. And it also seems that domination is just what porn portraits it to be: a lot of torture, and exotic bondage/caging. This is not true, for me domination is more the smaller things. Not much fun in just punishment alone, and punishment doesnt have to be exotic and dangerous or requre a lot of skills. an example could be: sub forced to hold small ball on the wall with her/his nose for disobeying.

So instead of allways speaking badly of inexperienced doms (like little me) lets encourage them to learn and grow.

just a little side question: what is it with all that punishment fixation?