orchidsoul, I understand where you're coming from. I've had enough such relationships work out badly to appreciate the potential for dammage.

By cleaner, I meant from the point of view of simplicity, rather than the risk oif contracting STDs. But you are 100% right to say that my intention is to maintain a discreet distance. I am an intensely private person and one thing I value more than most is my time alone. I can get stirr-crazy and claustrophobic if that space is repeatedly violated.

That said, I am good for my word. As a child, sometimes adults would make promised that they never kept. Later, school friends regeged on their debts and promises. I have learned to resent that, so I am careful to only make committments I wish to keep and will go out of my way to remember and honour my debts. I am as bound by my word as if by the strongest rope.

Master514, I have tried commercial sex in the USA and yes, in that context this scenario would be a complete non-starter. And I agree that paying her is not the basis of a fruitful relationship. I won't go into the differences between the industries in the USA and Hong Kong, but I get the feeling from these two visits that both of our intentions are to progress this to a non-financial affair once she goes back to her regular job in a month's time.

Sir Lanceloth, thank you for the link. I am slowly working my way through it.

I hope you all will tolerate my newness and lack of intimacy with your culture. Clearly, we have differences in out values and our personal styles. You might be right when you say this is not the right forum for me. I'll drop out for a while while I consider your comments.

In the meantime, rest assured that she and I have each other's best interests in mind.