received the same PM and added her to my Yahoo. we just had a rather lengthy conversation in which i hope i was able to help her in some way. i'll copy some of the advice i gave her in case it might help others...

~hellish~: as for safety...when you are first getting to know someone...definitely make sure you don't give out ANY personal information. i believe it took about 2 months before i felt comfortable giving him my phone number.
~hellish~: advice? take it slow...don't hide anything from your boyfriend. you don't have to give him details...but as long as you are honest about wanting to explore BDSM online and hopefully learn more from it...it should be ok..oh and if/when you do get an online Dom...you have to communicate with him...i've learned that the hard way too. try to be as open and honest as possible about how you are feeling and what you are looking for.