Am I driving myself crazy?

[Rhabbi]

Mysc,

Once again going to weigh in with my opinion.

I agree with Tom, becoming a good Dom is all about pleasing the sub. I treat every sub differently because each of them reacts differently. Continue to give him pointers, and, like hisj, be patient. If this is what he really wants eventually he will become a good Dom and focus on what works for you both.

As for pleasing him, I am sure he knows that is your desire. As a Dom I reinforce the things that a sub does that please me so she will know what to do. This actually please her, because her greatest satisfaction comes from pleasing me.

D/s is a bit more complicated than one person doing all the giving and the other all the taking. Eventually this relationship will blossom into something you cannot imagine if you are patient enough to guide it, yet give it room to go its own way.

[mysc]

I will Rhabbi, thanks for your opinion. Of course I was aware of the fact that it's not just a matter of giving and the other one automatically taking, it's a whole balance that counts. And in all relationships the sexual side to it is a delicate matter and a very important one. And I am fully aware of it, that's why it's is scary aswell.
Due to various reasons I have a short concentration span and patience to me is a very hard thing, and it's not that I'm not willing to be patient, it's more or less a body thing (I can't go to a restaurant and eat and sit there for more then 1 and a half hour, after that I get restless and cannot follow conversations anymore, but I can spend a whole night dancing. I've just relearned how to read books.. I couldn't get beyond the first 3 pages without losing the story, not remembering who was who and all..).

I've just talked about the email part and he asked me to do just that, write it all down. And I am going to do that.

Hugz
Mysc

[Sir_Russell]

Lets see if we can get back to point. We all feel what she is going through, frustration because our partner isn't quite or a lot not what we expected. The time and sessions it takes for the D/s to find common ground can be hard on the nerves.

I think though that once we get through that each of the players will have learned and found growth in the life. Sometimes that growth is unexpected and yet very pleasurable.

[mysc]

Lets see if we can get back to point. We all feel what she is going through, frustration because our partner isn't quite or a lot not what we expected. The time and sessions it takes for the D/s to find common ground can be hard on the nerves.

Erm and that was not my point. Again I do not feel or think my partner is lacking, I do not feel or think he should move faster, and I am not expecting more then he can handle... but that is not the way I can temper my urge, it's like an internal whirlwind and I'm (with all my reason and knowledge *ehum*), at that point, external and just have to sit it out.

Secondly was the fear of overwhelming and balancing the information stream.

I can see why it comes across like that tho SirRussel.. I apologise for that. My mind was racing at the moment I wrote that down...

[Xanthos]

Beswitchingly:
Yoga is an intriguing tip, thanks. I'd like to get into that myself (I'm Mysc's Dom, if you hadn't noticed that already) but I'm afraid I lack the attention span. Still I'd like to try, though.

As she said, it's not a problem of compatibility or different needs. We're still finding stuff out (well I am) but we're doing fine. It's more that once she gets going really well, it's like a gyrator being fed from some invisible powersource - she keeps and keeps going, past the point where my stamina runs out. I'd love to be able to do more, but it also has to wind down sometime.
It's hard when you're new to get started, yes. Then it might get really, really hard to find a good way to stop...

[Beswitchingly Positive]

Sounds like a pacing issue to me. Being excitied and wanting everything all at once, I understand that...felt the same way when I got together with my man. He is very good at taking charge and making the waiting part of the whole dynamic.

Yoga is good for increasing attention span. It seems like you two are ona good track. As long as you both keep wanting more, it sounds like a normal progression to me.

Cool, seems like your only problem is that you like each other and don't want to mess things up.

Beswitchingly