You can't rewire yourself. You are already wired that way or your not. If you are alreay drown to it than you may already be there. But you can learn to be a safe sadist. And that is were you need to learn. Wpping and beating and lashing are thing but to do so for plesure both to give and recieve is an other.As a sadist it is a atomatic tendense to take a slave all theway. but for the plesure for both and that is to be for plesure you can't go al the way. You have to learn control and restraint. You have to always remember thatyou can go futher than her body can take. Her mind on the other hand may ant you to futher, but the slaves body and health are the limiting factor. You can never do anything that will permantly harm or damage your slave. Remember this is for pleaure not just sex.