The first time I met my very FIRST Dom I had no clue... met him in a quiet state park area with a lake and plenty of forests, which we of course walked pretty far into for "privacy" to talk and no one had no clue where I was. Partly because I was so new to the lifestyle I was afraid to tell anyone who I was meeting, etc. To this day, when I look back on that, all I can think is how lucky I am that he was NOT a mass murder and that I came out alive. Talk about stupid human tricks... THAT, imho, was a major one!

After that experience, and having someone along the way explain to me exactly how stupid and lucky I had been I have always used a safe call, at least for an initial meeting and most of the time even for the first several meetings with someone. It may not matter to the person I am meeting (which actually concerns me know if it doesn't!) if I have one or not, but for my piece of mind during the meeting it helps greatly to know there is a catch system in place.

I could have sworn there was another thread here that talked about safe calls and used an example of not only having a safe call but having it set up so the person called you, instead of you making the call, and that you used key phrases to indicate to the person on the other end of the call if you were in trouble or not, just in the case someone was preventing you from being honest. Such as:

Yes, things are wonderful = safe
Yep, things are fine = call help now!

hmmmmmm *goes off in search... *