How do you know if a person is a sub ?

[ponytrainer12]

Hi, everyone,

I am just wondering if there are any signs on whicht to recognise if a female is actually a sub (before you ask her, of course). Is there a specific way of behaviour, style of dressing etc ? :help:
Any suggestions would be much appreciated.
Thanks, Hogar.

Indications of female submissive: In casual conversation she tends to look down with eyes when you (male) are speaking -- or slightly bows head. She wears anything like a collar/choker or inordinate use of braclets around wrists. Behavior: She walks behind you on a path.

[LittleGirl]

maybe?
she takes care of you. like, if you were in a bar or something.
I think it depends on the setting. and I agree with ponytrainer12.

[Bald_J_and_F]

We are both submissive, but in our professional lives we have to be very dominant. As far as we see it, this may even be the reason we prefer to be submissive in our private lives. We want respite from being dominant there. We sincerely doubt one could tell we are submissive if he or she saw us in our professional lives.

[julia_j]

i have a somewhat high stress job where i am definitely in control. i, however, like giving that control up in the bedroom (or wherever!) because it gives me a lot of leeway to do things i would never do otherwise - it takes the power away from me and i can just enjoy everything without worrying or overanalyzing everything. there are so many things i have done that i would have NEVER done otherwise. looking at me, talking with me, you would never know.

[Desdemon]

I was approached by someone who wanted to take pictures of me, because I was ( i think) his body type, and present a very powerful persona. After 10 days of email flirting, and an hour or so of taking pix, he knew I was a sub, even if I didn't (yet). Huh. I suspect he knew almost immidiatly after we began exchanging emails, now that I think about it. ;p

We met entirely outside of the BDSM scene as well.

I don't know where you are or your age, but here are some suggestions if you are looking outside whatever 'scene' is in your area: Find someone you are drawn to. ask simple but open ended questions. Flirting is a great way to break the ice, especially as if you push a potential boundary you aren't locked into having outed yourself, if you desire not to at first.