It also matters o have terms that are more of the nature "just what does the Dom decide"/how do we arbitrate things if there is trouble or misunderstanding?" because in any relation the unforeseen reality will step in (annie you're onto this with the example of getting your children). If the Dom is suddenly away for some time (contact breaks off in an online bond, or he falls ill in a live-in/r/l relation) then what happens? If you have a totally no-limits, no-checks relation that would just leave many things hanging in the air because the Dom can't be in charge and doesn't even say "you can handle this".