steve, I feel you should approach your situation not as a problem but as an opportunity. Your wife has given you a wonderful chance to explore not something you have become, but something you always were. You should be forever in her debt for helping you to discover this essential truth about yourself. Think of all the other male subs who are not so fortunate as yourself. The majority of them suffer in silence, unable to find a Lady to serve. Others, like myself, are so blessed in having a wonderful Miss, but she is on the other side of the ocuntry, and our relationship remains a long distance one. You, on the other hand, are living with your Lady, and even married to her! Rejoice in your fate, don't bemoan it!

Miss Ruby is correct is counselling you to relax and put your past behind you. Your body will tell you the right course of action. You already know what that course is...submit!