Quote Originally Posted by sayuri
In my opinion and experience you might not be able to tell what would be the most humiliating thing for you.
This is very true. I think it's safe to say only crazy people have no limits whatsoever. This isn't a judgment call, and having said that, I can immediately think of at least one person who I'd regard as being entirely sane but who never seemed to be afraid of anything, when he was alive (Bob Flanagan -- 'Supermasochist', for those who are wondering) I know another masochist IRL who has similar incredibly high threshholds for pain, but who will safeword if anybody plucks hairs on his back. And he isn't joking.

I personally have similar issues with a few things most people (even vanilla people) would think are so petty and trivial, it's often difficult to convince people I'm serious. One which I'll mention is kissing. Especially kissing on the lips. I cannot and will not let anybody aside from my husband kiss me on the lips and even with him, I have to be in a certain mood to respond. I've grown to grudgingly accept 'air kisses' from a few scene people, but even these come very close to pushing a limit button for me. It may seem such a trivial and even sillt thing for others (and plenty of people have told me so) but it's important to me and I expect it to be respected. There's a few other 'little' things like this, but I don't ever dare mention them to anybody.

So, the point I'm trying to make is there's nothing wrong with feeling that way regardless of what it is we're talking about. 'No' might not always mean 'no', but anything that goes beyond any point declared to be a limit for somebody should be respected without question.

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