L1zzy
You might be surprised at how many control freaks want to be bottoms in the bedroom. I am not saying sub because I feel it is the wrong term since as you have said it is just in the bedroom.

That is hard for the man to understand sometimes that he needs to stay out of your way or face consequences out of the bedroom but to be in charge and creative in the bedroom.

I agree with everyone you must talk to him about this but you have to acknowledge that you want him to be a top in the bedroom to play the game you need. To strut like a rooster, to accept that you need to be at his mercy and feel that he is both forceful and masculine. You need to realize that your own actions have probably played a part in the problem.