Bringing out your dominant/submissive personality in real life

[sayuri]

I am sexually submissive but this side of me doesn't actually affect other sides of my life. I could never think of letting anyone step on my toes. This attitude often makes (Dom-)people wonder if I'm a subbie at all

My sub element is strong but I am known as a 'no-nonsense' kind of person. Submissiveness is there and it's a big part of me, but it doesn't mean I give it to anyone to play with

Sometimes I meet a dominant person who brings my subbie personality alive also in non-sexual situations, but at those moments there's always a hint of sexual tension even if the other person doesn't notice it.

[Wade Powers]

I too enjoy the journey with both parts of my personality in tension. As sayuri mentioned, the tension itself is pleasurable. I enjoy interactions where I am assertive and powerful, and others where I passively "allow" another to take control.
Indeed, the tension of not knowing how the next interaction will transpire is part of the pleasurable journey. Sexual or psychological, there is enjoyment in each. I wouldn't have it any other way.