reading above and nodding in complete agreement...

Trust your instincts. If you hate admitting defeat, have been told to fail is to quit, he/she is your true friend, if you wonder if you are overtly suspicious or being told you are then try to talk about it.

...if a problem or situation is refused to be talked about
...denied
...or shrugged off as inconsequential
if you feel inconsequential or insignificant in any way
...or even said that when upset he/she forgets what they say and means nothing by it and refuses to go further than this.

...if you feel alone in the relationship
...if you or your limits are NOT being respected and again you are not being heard or allowed to voice your feelings.

if you have feelings you are not trusted and are being honest and true
if you see any inconsistancies and go back through the list above again

if you have tried to leave at least once and not listened to or respected

do not allow yourself to be brainwashed by meditations of acceptance and belief

if in a Poly relationship...and asked to keep secrets from One.

there is no trust

there is no communication

it comes down to the bottom line...if your instincts tell you things are not right.

leave.

immediately after i left a turned relationship i felt "so much" relief, panic attacks stopped and i am now centered once again.

please take care of yourself, as a very good friend passed on to me, do not doubt yourself once. You know you...

and do not be afraid to talk about it to someone trusted, it releases the beast of secrecy and allows you to become free once again and there is no reason to feel shame if this also was inflicted or indicated in any form.

i wish you strength and the very best with warmest thoughts