BUT, don't leave just because someone else says you should. I mean, if you feel 'right' where you are, don't let someone tell you it's 'sick' or 'perverted' or degrading to be a sub. There are different types of relationships, and we have to find the ones that are right for us.
If an outside person doesn't understand your lifestyle, they can't give you advise on whether to stay or go.
It's as everyone else has said - sit somewhere quietly, think about what you most want, and then decide if you can get it where you are. Do not stay if you are miserable there. Sometimes a sub gets so used to having decisions made for her that she forgets she can make them for herself, too.
You are number one - look after yourself