Quote Originally Posted by Lilly My Sweet
I ask this question because I am new to the scene and wish for understanding.

What emotions does the addition of BDSM in a relationship reinforce in a dominant partner to feel toward their submissive partner?... besides hopefully love. As a submissive partner, I understand that feelings of trust and the desire and pleasure recieved from the devotion to fill their partner's needs are feelings often reinforced through the play of BDSM on the submissive partner's side, but at the same time, what is the dominant partner feeling? In a healthy dominant/submissive sexual relationship, what feelings are reinforced through BDSM play that make their ties stronger to their submissive partner? And are the feelings that the dominant partner feel a form of reverse submission? Thanks
OK lilly,
I answer with the admonition that a “healthy Dominant/submissive sexual relationship” is a matter of taste and tolerance and would vary from Dom to Dom
so take this counsel for what it’s worth.
First trust is of course a two way street which is necessarily reinforced in both partners when they delve into these activities. Communication (verbal and not) sharpens when you're out on the edge. When you make yourself vulnerable to your Dom you stir up feelings of lust of course but also possessiveness and ultimately (paradoxically) protectiveness. Though I admit expressing protectiveness with a flogger is a little bit difficult to understand/explain ( guess you had to be there).
Call me a romantic but when you worship your Dom it’s really hard for them not to cherish and adore you back. I’m sure it happens but not that often in my opinion.
Oh yeah, confusion can be the first step to enlightenment

Lews the Mad