I don't mind the rushing in... although it often sounds like infatuation, with not enough time to develop or discover love. But the real problem with this need to announce and lock in plans (sometimes changing names, sometimes not) is that you create a situation with no graceful way out if it doesn't go as planned.

So many here have experienced the same conundrum, they go into hiding, reenter as a new identity, or proclaim woe is me... and then do it again.

I wish you well Cream. Good luck... and I hope you've come to know each other well enough to get through the learning about the foibles stage.