My dominance is not something i do or choose not to do. It has been a part of my personality for as long as I can recall, and it is what I am. Since I found a name for it several years ago, I no longer even try to hide it -- it is the way I relate to everyone.

By that I certainly don't mean that I swagger or carry a flogger or a challenge with me. I am quiet in person; I listen a lot. My former university students, and my own children, used to say I spoke with my eyes. I'm sure my pita will find her training direction more in my eyes than in my words.

I am soft spoken and when I have something to say, some people make a point of listening. I'm flattered by being taken seriously, of course, and have never taken it upon myself to find out if such people share my interests in BDSM. In RL the majority of people we all see rush and babble and never meet your eyes long enough to know anything is happening inside; such folk aren't of much interest; you need a sense of humor and of your own unimportance to know it is best to just stand aside and let most people rush past.

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