Wear do you get it?

[cbtok]

How about a set of velco restraints and a nice riding crop.

I second the idea of a nice riding crop but either I am way too strong (doubt it) or they are way too weak. Velcro is not a great way to restrain someone unless you want that someone to be able to take back control of themselves whenever they wish.

There are lots of very reputable suppliers of BDSM goods. For cuffs, I recommend the soft leather kind with a good buckle. You want soft leather because you don't want the cuffs to abrade the skin. Going out to dinner after a nice play session with angry red marks on one's wrists and ankles is just not tasteful.

Best place for a riding crop is at a tack store because they don't charge a premium for the riding crop as a fetish item. You can also pick up chains, locks and so on at your local hardware store, which is always cheaper than the BDSM shops. Honest-to-goodness human restraints are BDSM shop items. And, while on-line shopping is greener and more convenient in the privacy of one's own home, I highly recommend you physically take yourself there and try things on before you purchase. If you're looking at restraints, you want to make sure they won't fall apart under stress.

Once you have a feel for what you know will fit with how you're playing, shopping on-line is a breeze. And the most reputable on-line stores will have a no-questions-asked return policy (assuming the item is returned unused in its original container).