Quote Originally Posted by animanota View Post
I am not sure where I should go in my life. Let me give you some backstory. I am happily married and my wife of 8 years and I are definitely not a vanilla couple. My wife is a struggling submissive with a dominant personality. She is a person with control issues but she wants to give it up in the bedroom only. She really is a walking contradiction. I can be more submissive than she is but I do like to take charge sometimes. The problem is that I'm not sure where and take her and how to 1,2,3 it. She can take some light damage but I've been reluctant to really roll up my sleeve due to her being 6 monthes pregant with our first. My goal is to train her into being a pain slut and for her to explore where she wants to go with our sexual relationship instead of being just along for the ride while I do all the work. I am a little jaded about that. The addition of a child will also come into play soon so is there any parents with suggestions on training, kinky sex and living with toodlers?
I thought I had already responded to this.

My suggestion is that you start with sensations. Sensation play can be the best type of training, and it allows you to explore the pain aspects also. I would avoid doing anything heavy ion the pain department until after she delivers because of the added danger during pregnancy. Then you can start exporing pain more earnestly, if that is still what you want to do. You might find that tying her to the bed blindfolded and exploring how she reacts to different things is enough to keep you both entertained.