i've tried getting in contact with him, to no avail. He can be sporadic with contact at times, but never quite to this extent.

i understand that his marriage comes first, as mine also does. and if he's feeling bonded with his wife or whatever, that's great. but surely, having had made plans to get together this past week, he could've been courteous enough to tell me that it wouldn't be happening in advance?

i'm extremely frustrated - possibly in part because it's not so strange for him to go a week or so without talking to me or emailing me in the slightest. We both say how we dislike really needy people, so that often deters me from saying much of anything to him about it, because i don't want to appear to be that kind of needy person.