hikochan, only you can decide if this relationship is worth salvaging, but if you decide it is, here's my advice.

1. Your boyfriend will not figure out on his own what you like done. You will have to tell him. Men don't take hints well, and BDSM is no different.

2. As a 21st century male, he's been brought up to be super-sensitive to sexual harassment. Remember, this is the era where a man lost his job for calling the women in the office "ladies", rather than "women". You need to reinforce as often as possible how much you enjoy what you want done, and he will suffer no repercussions. You'll probably have to assure him this is not a setup.

3. Reward him when he brings you pleasure. There's nothing like a good blow job to spur a man to action. I know you want him to force himself on you, but that comes later.

4. Find a story or a video where you can say to him "this is what I would enjoy". There are lots of good stories on this site about women enjoying being subs.

Good luck. Let us know how it turns out.