Quote Originally Posted by hikochan View Post
Oh, I've tried! But even doing something as simple as wearing a nice corset makes him cringe. He whines about how he's afraid I'm hurting myself until I just take the damn thing off. Honestly, I've worn corsets out to the dance club! They obviously don't bother me that damn much.

I don't know what to do with him. We got into a huge argument the other day about how he hasn't said one word about how much weight I lost this year. You know what he told me? "I'm afraid if I say something then you'll assume that I didn't like you before. And then if you gain it back you'll assume that I think you're ugly or something. Besides, I don't want to objectify you or anything." WTF. I've never behaved in any way that would make him think like this. I know his last girlfriend was a huge femi-nazi though so maybe she just totally brainwashed him. Why would you think you can't compliment your girlfriend on how she looks nice today? If I make the extra effort I want to hear about it! Gah. Like I said - I'm beating my head against a brick wall over here.

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent! Again...LOL
A very wise friend told me once that when you're together with a girl your also together with all her exe's. But you may have said something to make him think like that. In my experiences women tend to be a lot more intelligent when it comes to emotions than men so it can be quite hard for us to understand exactly why women get angry. So we over compensate, and then girls think we're being cheeky because to women it's all so obvious. Another friend was in couples counciling and they got the advice to exaggerate explanations and be extremely clear on what they mean and say. I have no idea if it may work. But both need to do it.

I don't think it's only down to physical attraction when older men fall for young chicks. Understanding your partners motivations can be very comforting.