I'm sorry for you and your situation. I feel kinda stuck in my sex life too. I have told hubby what I want, to be a sub and him be Dom, but his idea of it is to get him and be done. he'll throw me around a bit to tease me that this is going to be a great sex session, but then, nothing! there is no working up, no foreplay, just sticks it in, does his thing and he's done. leaving me bored the entire time. this is every time! He thinks being Dom is only roughing me up a bit, boning me and BAM! done. it's all about him. I'm getting pretty fed up with it b/c he's not hearing me, really listening. So I feel ya girl......good luck.