BDSM before and after the Internet

[Sir_Russell]

Before the net it was tough and if you lived in a bible belt area even more so. Finding a sub meant you had to study women and find one that showed signs. Then study her closely and build trust first before you even broached the subject. Even if she was really a sub at heart and mind she might very well refuse and be extremely upset. It was very hard but at least it was real.

[Ocean_Soul]

Before the net it was tough and if you lived in a bible belt area even more so. Finding a sub meant you had to study women and find one that showed signs. Then study her closely and build trust first before you even broached the subject. Even if she was really a sub at heart and mind she might very well refuse and be extremely upset. It was very hard but at least it was real.

pretty much one of my main issues with finding a subbie without the internet. After all the work I have to shout "next" and find someone else.

[jeanne]

It was very hard but at least it was real.

That struck a chord with me, Sir_Russell. I've been told that some are better at online relationships than others...perhaps the distance makes it easier for them. For myself, it would make it much harder - harder to submit, harder to obey - without the "hands-on" part of it. I guess I'm showing my age, since I didn't grow up with a computer and a separate life on the Internet, so just have no interest/inclination in the "online only relationship" direction.

Yep, I'm a closet Luddite,
jeanne