Accidental disobedience? Would you accept that excuse from a child? From an employee? More than once; "I forgot" doesn't fly in the vanilla world. Why should you accept that from your subs within the lifestyle.

Continual forgetfulness is not forgetfulness. It's no less willful than deliberate disobedience.
First of all, Oz, I'll have you know that sometimes continual forgetfulness is exactly what it seems to be, which is simply forgetfulness. I've suffered from it since I was a child. You can see the teachers' remarks on my report cards all the way back to elementary school where I've continually forgotten to do my homework. Yes, I hated to do homework, but I was always on the honor roll.

I may remember it several times during the day while completing something else but not remember to actually do it.
Annie, I'm guilty of remembering things I'm supposed to do during the day and then promptly forgetting to do them, such as mail bills. I've come to the conclusion that it's just a personality flaw that as of yet no one has been able to "fix," kind of like my chronic tardiness. I never mean to be late, but for some reason, I am.

And why do you need an excuse for "the fun kind of punishment." What you do for fun is not a punishment. If a punishment is required... it shouldn't be fun. So you encourage your submissive to play at being disobedient in order to get fun-time. You're talking about playing at B&D and S&M while you roleplay D/s.
Oz, my most interesting domly one, it's elementary. I love the feeling of being "in trouble." Of course, I'm not really being bad, and he's not really angry. Otherwise, it would not be fun at all. For instance, when I showed him my new black patent leather thigh high stilletto boots and asked if he wanted to lick them, I could barely say it with a straight face. In fact, when he gave me that look as if to ask "are you crazy," I was almost rolling on the floor from laughing so hard. Anyhow, when he snatched me out of bed and turned me over his knee for a spanking, I was in subbie heaven! It's just a way to be spontaneous without all the planning that goes into a scene.

And worst of all... when you make your submissives the center of attention, you serve them.

My submissives serve me. NONE of them, past or present, nor likely in the future, fail to understand their role. They obey because the want to please me. They fear getting punished, not because I'm harsh but because they truly do not wish to displease me and gladly offer themselves up for a spanking or a paddle, ten or twentyfold the number, because they know it pleases me to have them across my knee.
Why is that so awful? Just last night, VoodooMan served me by cooking spaghetti and garlic bread. He even said, albeit jokingly, "I'm here to serve." *smiles* Voodoo saying that is kinda like me saying "lick my boots" isn't it?

This past weekend, after I scraped paint off his bedroom windows and helped him clean his room, he served me the next day by making the breakfast I wanted, giving me a massage and letting me nap the day away, taking me to a movie and out to dinner. I understand my role just fine. I want to please him but not because I fear him or fear being punished. He inspires me to want to please him. Even though he serves me, I make no mistake about who is Dom and who is sub. I guess that's one lesson I haven't forgotten.