Hiya Vincent and welcome

I'm pretty new too to d/s, but I have general experience in what you're wondering about!

As far as bondage, there are some great sites out there. Google bondage, or search in here and you will find plenty. Before I found sites though, I just wrapped and rolled, so to say. Check into the breast bondage thread too for cautionary tips.

I like breast bondage very much which can lead to alls sorts of exciting teasing and pain playgrounds. One very good teasing method is the focusing on every part of her body other than where you are creating the biggest stir Pegs/clothespins/clamps on the nipples add a pain sensation if you don't have any other "official" toys like crops or floggers. They can also be applied to her labia/clit(but that's seriously painful to some). There's also nothing like your hand pinching and twisting... nails scratching... teeth biting.

Again, stay away from her dripping areas for a while and you will surely achieve teasing, and most likely begging.

If you want suspense, you could blindfold her so she doesn't know what's happening.

Tie her legs or arms apart if you have a poster bed. Even if you don't, if your rope length is long enough, tie her hand then send the rope under the bed to the other side and tie off that arm. She still won't be able to move very far! Same applies to legs. This also leaves her very open and vulnerable to you....allowing you to have your way with her.

For command, whatever you want her to do, just be very clear as to what you expect and that inherently is commanding. Some people may like "open up slut so I can fuck your mouth" while others may prefer "beg me to allow you to suck my cock" and everything in between. Order her on her knees, or in whatever postition you desire. Tell her she is not allowed to cum without permission. Those are just a few ideas. I'm sure others will have some good ideas too.

The build up. If you make her wait long enough for your cock, she's most likely going to be salivating in anticipation!

I'm not sure what you're both into, but you could force oral upon her, call her dirty names, spank her, peg her, tie her up, tease her, blindfold her, flog her, drip hot wax on her, handcuff her, use dildos/vibrators/toys on her, anal sex and fuck her every which way sideways.

You may want to have a set of safe words for her that indicates slow down, or stop just in case it's too much if you go down the road of pain exploration especially.

I look forward to hearing your scenario as it will help us gauge what you're interested in a little better.

Have fun and good luck Relax and let your mind wander to her body that will be YOUR playground... it will all come together.

orchidsoul