Hi BM.. I didn't say I was certain about the looking after me thing, just that I felt sure. The point is, our contract makes it clear that Mistress is NOT obliged to do so, in any way. The contract generally IS important.. of course in any relationship, vanilla or d/s, there are things that both parties know - or THINK they know.... Feelings change, people change, 'certainties' change.

The contract specifically makes my role clear for life.... it means that if I have 'wobbles' or want things to change, that's simply 'tough'... those decisions are entirely in Mistress's hands.

Ruby, re this comment: <<Contracts that leave all of the decisions with one party get my no vote, because I'm not into non-consensual activites and I see them as a step closer to abuse rather than a step closer to a relationship based on mutual trust.>> I freely (and eagerly!) signed the contract and entered this situation, so I don't see it as non-consensual. I trust my Mistress with my life.... almost literally... and don't wholly like even the hint of that ugly word 'abuse'.

I know that 'extreme' bdsm relationships can look a bit scary or somehow wrong from the outside, but those of us in them are often very intelligent people, not whacked out weirdoes with no common sense at all... :-)