What do you find humiliating?

[Euryleia]

I spoke about this on another thread but, for me at least, there is a fine line between arousing words that are humiliating and those that are degrading. There has to be a sense of possesion for the words to not be hurtful ie 'your slut.'

On the other hand, physical humiliation does push my buttons--the idea of making someone or being made to be sexual in nonsexual situations (in semi-public places or around coworkers) is quite a turn on.

[Platonicus]

I spoke about this on another thread but, for me at least, there is a fine line between arousing words that are humiliating and those that are degrading. There has to be a sense of possesion for the words to not be hurtful ie 'your slut.'

On the other hand, physical humiliation does push my buttons--the idea of making someone or being made to be sexual in nonsexual situations (in semi-public places or around coworkers) is quite a turn on.

Yes, I certainly agree. People often have misconceptions about humiliation play in a D/s scene and sometimes confuse it with degradation which is in my opinion definitely a debilitating form of mental and emotional abuse.

When done by partners who are well versed in what each find pleasurably, humiliation can be very erotic and meaningful. But what one person finds erotic another may find demeaning or hurtful which is why engaging in humilation play is something I think best enjoyed by partners who know one another very well. And relationships in which the submissive is able to be very open about what she doesn't like and where the dominant exercises caution and watches and listens for the submissive's reactions.