Some of mine I could keep this up for a long time

[Sir_Russell]

Today's Post

I don't think I have posted this here. I wrote this to answer a lady that decided that a Dom must be a control freak.

Control Freak or Dominant

I have been both and each is very different.

A control freak wants to be in charge of you at all times, no item is too small for him, to ignore no detail. He inspects and almost never likes what he finds.

A Dominant differs in that he sets what is important to him and to the relationship. He is a friend that you can share joys, problems with and who will ask for your advice before making a decision.

A control freak is normally upset because you didn’t do things right which means that no matter how detailed his instructions are there is always more left unspoken. This puts you in the unenviable position of never being good enough.

A Dominant takes responsibility for his own actions or lack thereof. Normally a laidback person that is looking to help you grow and wants you to feel good about yourself, knowing that growth takes errors and failures.

A control freak rarely thinks he makes mistakes it is always someone else that caused the problem.

A Dominant has to be in control of themselves first so has a tendency to look first at his own shortcomings before looking to blame others.

A control freak is often disgusted with your effort or in the way causing you to be fearful that you will fail again.

A Dominant is a teacher, looking to help and instruct at the same time. A good teacher also give you space and confidence to try it on your own, then may make suggestion on how it might be done even better then you did but lets you know that the effort is what counted.

A control freak rarely has time to enjoy you, spend some time with just you relaxing and loving.

A Dominant loves the idea of time with his lady, a chance to laugh and enjoy or a chance to take her out and show her off, let the world see his pride in her.

A Dominant is mannerly, the first person you want to run to when your world is falling apart, a strong shoulder to cry on, a confidant, etc. He has your best interest at heart even over his own. He respects his lady, honors her, and has great pride in her. Most women never get to experience that for extended periods of time. He also expects the same in return.

A control freak wants life done his way.

A Dominant negotiate how life will be for the 2 of you, but then expects you to do your best, as he will, to live up to the agreement.