Lil subbie me would like to comment

I am a "tester" I cannot help it. I have always been one who pushes buttons and tests people... I don't always quiet know when to stop. Its not me wanting to be bad persay... its just I am.. overly curious? I get bored easily?

Anyway. I would say do not try to stiffle her imagination... or the wheels the are constantly turning in her head. A "Broken" sub. can be quite a bore. I have heard of very few Doms who want a doormat. After all one of the major things between a Dom and sub is to learn and grow together. Its all about experiences. If a sub. feels she is not free to blossom then things probably won't progress well.

I say let her know there is a time and place for this kind of attitude. If you've just gotten home from a hard day of work the last thing you want is to be pushed and proded and tested. So thats a time you would like to discourage her use of this.. tactic (yes... if she is anything like me and other "testy" subs... its a tactic.) She may be doing this just to get you to put your foot down at times. I used to "top from the bottom" by testing.. if I wanted a spanking.. I'd get it by.. testing.. kind of a reverse pyscology thing.

Its hard to find a balance isn't it? Of letting a sub be "Free" to blossom with this and also setting a boundary of when enough is enough.


I found for me.. while it kills me inside....Being left alone from my Dom was the worst. Him, not speaking to me for a small while, while I was left to sit in a corner and think, not move, not talk, not fidget, just think. And after lets say 20 minutes, discuss what happened.

Anything like writing sentences... tedious things is TORTURE for me. I am a very hyper... kind of person. I have ADHD. So tedious tasks drive me insane or having to sit and be quiet is awful.

Talk openly with her about things she dislikes, ecourage her to be honest. And then explain that at times these things may have to be used to punish her. I find most subs. like spankings or kneeling infront of their Masters.. so that is no good.

Wow.. I am rambling here, arn't I? I hope I have gotten to some point in all of this....